Let me just say that, despite feeling a little weird about eating a frozen TV dinner, Healthy Choice has really stepped up their game on frozen meals. They’re actually pretty good. Unfortunately my town doesn’t recycle 5 plastics which many of their newer steamy whatchamajiggy meals use as their main dishes. Therefore they won’t be being bought again until I can at least recycle them in my city. But I think they’ve inspired me to try to make my own portioned out frozen dinners for myself at some point. Just, you know… So you know.
But that’s not what I was planning on writing about. I was just writing about it while I finished the one I was eating… And I’m also not going to blog about how I’m going to blog, and then I’ll turn around and not do that. Kudos, me!
I actually had a question to ask…
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You see, I got engaged last year! This is panning out to be an interesting situation as I have grand, albeit offbeat, ideas about what I want at my wedding while my Ozark Sweetie has admitted to having no idea what takes place at a wedding that is located outside of a Southern Baptist church basement.
While I am overcome with the giddiness of the pre-“how are we going to pay for this?” wedding planning, there is one part of it all that is making me a little nervous: The ceremony. You know, the most important part and purpose of a wedding?
Here we have me – Pagan. My guy is… Something else. He’s got a very “It’s great for everyone else, but I don’t worry about it” stance on things, though when he does talk about things he believes it’s really beautiful. My family is a weird mix of various Christian denominations with a spattering of Buddhism and whatnot. His family is Southern Baptist, though some are much stauncher in their belief than others. On top of this, our officiant is a friend, and I don’t feel right asking him to run a religious ceremony.
But still… This is a very, very spiritual undertaking for me. Social contract aside, this is me coming out to the world around me and saying I am officially planning on spending my life with this person. And I do see it as a joining of two souls. I want some religious aspects worked into it.
I know I don’t want to call quarters. I never call quarters, so I would feel really weird about it.
Anyway, my question is…
For the married ladies and gents out there, did you have Pagan aspects in your wedding ceremony? I want to know about your handfastings and purely religious, too!
For those of the non-married variety, I’m not leaving you out either here… Can you think of any way to toss in some Pagan aspects into a relatively secular celebration of love?
Funny but true… I can’t figure out what I’d want to represent my own religious affiliation, but I knew straight off the bat I want Corinthians read. I may very well be a contender for the Worst Pagan Ever Award. *insert giggling here*
Foxglove & Firmitas 
Considering Pagans "steal" many different mythologies from all over the world, I don't see how having Corinthians read would be anti-Pagan, or make you the Worst Pagan Ever. :p Good luck! 🙂
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I agree actually! 😀 I just found it funny that despite never being Christian and not being raised in a Christian household, Corinthians was the first thing to come to mind when I thought of my wedding ceremony.But in reality it's a very universal sentiment expressed in it, and it will make a lot of people attending more comfortable to have something Abrahamic there.
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I always wanted to be outside and barefoot. Very pagan feel to me, especially if it's near trees, but that is based on where I grew up and how I was raised. Other than that, you're always allowed to write your own vows/ceremony and can hire a high priest/ess or a non-denominational officiant. You can always make little parts of the ceremony/decorations pagan. Maybe a broom jumping or an oath ring. (Oath rings are a Heathen custom that both husband and wife swear their vows on an iron ring that they put in their home.)Make it special for you, and make sure your fiance is involved, 'cause it's part his day too!Good luck, hope all goes well for you.Skye
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A friend of mine is getting married soon. Her and her fiance are having the legal side of things done at the courthouse on the friday, and having a pagan handfasting ceremony in a park with families and friends on the saturday – that way the actual ceremony can be however they want it.If you want a pagan ceremony that legally marries you both- here's some ideas http://mag.weddingcentral.com.au/ceremonies/handfasting.htm http://mag.weddingcentral.com.au/ceremonies/pagan.htmGood luck 🙂
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When you wake up the morning of your wedding, when you walk down the aisle or path or whatever, you are going to be so excited, so wrapped up in him, that you don't even notice if you forgot a tradition or not. That being said, traditions or poems or scripture is there to remind us of our vows, our promise. By wrapping your hands together, you symbolize your union. First, figure out what promises you intend to make to each other and then find the symbol that fits. If you both value independance, you may not want to symbolically wrap your hands to become one entity, but two people walking hand in hand stepping over a broom may be more your style. That symbolizes that, together, you will overcome even the toughest obstacle… Now that I'm looking back on my wedding, I should have had my husband pick up a broom, symbolizing a promise to help with the housework on occasion.
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